Conversation-friendly. Easy to leave. Drinks under $20. Ten bars our editors keep recommending when readers ask where to take a first date.
First dates are the highest-stakes hospitality test in the city. The room has to be quiet enough to hear each other but full enough that a long silence does not feel cavernous. The drink list has to give a reader who does not drink a graceful out. The exit has to be easy. Our editors have spent the past year vetting New York's cocktail rooms specifically for this question — where do you take someone you might not see again, but might see for the next twenty years?
Where the editors take a first date in New York
The first six picks below are the editors' default — the rooms we send a friend to first when they ask. Each is followed by a recommendation we have ordered ourselves at least three times. Click any bar name to read the full review, signature drink notes, neighbourhood guide and how to book.
Attaboy sits in Lower East Side and the penicillin arrives in a coupe and the bar staff move at the right pace. Easy to leave gracefully if it is not working. Easy to extend if it is. The exit has a quiet street, not a queue. Editors' rating in our database: 4.8 of 5.
In Financial District, The Dead Rabbit the door is unmarked enough to feel discovered and known enough to be reliable. Easy to leave gracefully if it is not working. Easy to extend if it is. The exit has a quiet street, not a queue. Editors' rating in our database: 4.8 of 5.
At Double Chicken Please in Lower East Side, the japanese cold noodle is on the menu year-round for a reason and the bartenders pour with intent. Conversation here travels well. The acoustics are tuned for two people leaning in, not eight people leaning out, which is exactly what a first date needs. Editors' rating in our database: 4.8 of 5.
Death & Co sits in East Village and the room is what it should be — quiet without being precious, busy without being a queue. Conversation here travels well. The acoustics are tuned for two people leaning in, not eight people leaning out, which is exactly what a first date needs. Editors' rating in our database: 4.8 of 5.
The Hideout, in Hell's Kitchen, the door is unmarked enough to feel discovered and known enough to be reliable. Conversation here travels well. The acoustics are tuned for two people leaning in, not eight people leaning out, which is exactly what a first date needs. Editors' rating in our database: 4.5 of 5.
At Lovers of Today in East Village, the lovers spritz arrives in a coupe and the bar staff move at the right pace. Conversation here travels well. The acoustics are tuned for two people leaning in, not eight people leaning out, which is exactly what a first date needs. Editors' rating in our database: 4.5 of 5.
Order: Lovers Spritz
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These last four are the editors' deeper-cut picks. Smaller rooms, more specific energy. If the first six feel obvious to you — meaning you have already been — start here.
In Flatiron, Undercote the korean whiskey sour arrives in a coupe and the bar staff move at the right pace. Easy to leave gracefully if it is not working. Easy to extend if it is. The exit has a quiet street, not a queue. Editors' rating in our database: 4.7 of 5.
At Banzarbar in East Village, the room is what it should be — quiet without being precious, busy without being a queue. Easy to leave gracefully if it is not working. Easy to extend if it is. The exit has a quiet street, not a queue. Editors' rating in our database: 4.7 of 5.
At Amor y Amargo in East Village, the door is unmarked enough to feel discovered and known enough to be reliable. Easy to leave gracefully if it is not working. Easy to extend if it is. The exit has a quiet street, not a queue. Editors' rating in our database: 4.7 of 5.
At Pegu Club in SoHo, the gin-gin mule arrives in a coupe and the bar staff move at the right pace. Pick a corner two-top and order across the menu — the staff are unfussed, the room is dim enough that you can read each other but bright enough that you can read the menu. Editors' rating in our database: 4.7 of 5.
Order: Gin-Gin Mule
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If you are reading this article, you are probably between the booking confirmation and the actual date. Three rules. Book the table — walking in with a reservation says you put thought in. Pick the bar nearest to public transport, not the one with the best view. And keep dinner reservations elsewhere; if the conversation works, you are going to want a second venue.
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